A few thoughts on age
I'm going to be cliché as fuck here by saying age is just a number. But this cliché has always been a mindset I carried with me. It always acted as sort of a reality check.
I turned 29 today. Can you believe it? Because I sure can't.
I never really felt my age. When I was younger I felt much older and when I started getting more mature maybe due to getting wiser as well I started feeling younger than my age. Maybe it has to do with the fact that my fiancé and my bff are younger than me. So I'm guessing if you surround yourself with younger people you also feel younger. One thing is sure though, whenever strangers ask me my age I always have to think about it first. I'm so not interested in knowing my age myself, that I just honestly never remember correctly.
My mother had me when she was 22. By the age of 29 she had two children going to school/pre school. This is where our society comes into the picture.
Although in our "modern" 21st century there are a lot more women not being married and not having children before or even after 30, what I still see is, what's also happening to me. Young adults being questioned all the fucking time by their parents and grandparents and even strangers. "When are you getting married?" "Why don't you have kids already?" And of course I love it when they take out the big guns and tell you "You know I'm not getting any younger and would really love to see my grandchildren/great-grandchildren while I can." - jaw drops!
One of my worst experiences with not "meeting the standards" regarding my age was when one time I went to see my OB/GYN. She basically flat out said that at my age I really should be thinking about getting pregnant because the clock is ticking. FYI I was 27 years old at the time and was and still am healthy as a horse. When she told me that I went home crying.
I do understand where they are coming from, but still, I would never ever tell something like that to my grandchildren or complete strangers even, ever. We live in the goddamned 21st century. It's their life and they only get one of it, why waist it on complying with social expectations instead of living their life to the fullest.
When I was in my teens I always wanted to be a young mother (only because I thought it to be cool), until I got to the age when one should be considered a young mother. But what is young anyway? My mother, who is 51 years old still looks young. It's just a matter of taking care of yourself physically and mentally to look and feel young, it shouldn't be defined by your date of birth.
So I think that in our modern age it is god damned time for our society to catch up and get rid of all the stigma around women's age and what that should mean to them.
She knows bloody well WHAT she wants for herself and WHEN she wants it.